May 13, 2024
I learnt to kiss off a Swedish exchange guy in a transit stairwell. It was a good spot because almost nobody parked on the top floor, and we had plenty of notice as we’d hear the emergency exit door opening and closing if anyone was on their way to interrupt our make out session. He was keen on food play, and we swapped chocolate balls as we kissed. But while he was a good kisser he turned out to be a dud and to this day I can’t even with chocolate balls. The thing about kissing is it’s an easy technique to learn with some practice and handy tips. So if your kissing has become a little routine or you’ve never had anyone give you some advice – I’m here to help you add some smooch back into your love life.
Why do we like kissing?
Your lips are erogenous zones. These are sensitive areas of your body that can be stimulated for sexual pleasure – and the sheer number of nerve endings in them makes stimulating them – say by kissing – incredibly pleasurable. Socially, kissing is a way to show love for your partner. It’s an act that can be sexual or appreciative, and for many people it’s an important part of foreplay and getting ready for sexual intercourse. The way your partner kisses is a good indication of how you feel about each other. When I lived in England, my boyfriend would make me cups of tea with vegemite on toast. I would be watching the telly on the couch, and he’d pass me breakfast behind me from the little kitchenette. Then he would stand behind the couch. I’d thank him and then he’d give me an upside-down kiss from above.
Now we use kissing as a way of saying thanks, I appreciate you. We use kissing to say I love you. If we have argued, then I can tell if he’s still mad by his body language and refusal to kiss me. Although, there is nothing better than saying sorry and kissing and making up.
Are there health benefits to kissing?
Yes kissing does have health benefits! During a kiss, you body releases chemicals including oxytocin, dopamine, and serotonin. These can make you feel euphoric and encourage feelings of affection and bonding. Kissing also lowers your stress hormone, cortisol. When you body is stimulated positively, it also releases happy hormones called endorphins. Your blood will flow to your sexual organs, and you will feel mentally turned on.
Tips for being a better kisser
